Beliefs! This is what we are discussing in this episode of the “Think Zing!” series.


“We are born believing. A man bears beliefs as a tree bears apples.”

– Ralph Waldo Emerson

Beliefs are ideas and definitions.

In most cases, beliefs are unconscious definitions, we have about everything, which we hold to be true. I have said “we hold to be true” because the beliefs in themselves are not intrinsically true or false. If any belief would carry an inbuilt meaning we would all believe the same things about anything. Any experience, we would experience would mean the same thing for anyone. Obviously, this is not the case.

We don’t all believe the same things, do we now?

Look at our families. Relationships. Our society. Look at the world; look at us. How about those areas in which we experience what we call conflict? We can only experience conflict with someone when our beliefs don’t match someone else’s beliefs.

Thus, we get into conflict with them.

We get in conflict with ourselves, too, when what we originally and unconsciously believed about any situation doesn’t match with the actual situation in itself.

Most of everything we know, thus believe to be true, we get to know because of somebody, someone, something that told us it is so. From very early in our lives we unconsciously and automatically begin to adopt the beliefs of our families, and of the environment, we are growing in.

After all, we need the definitions we adapt to give meaning to every experience, we experience throughout our life.

Without these definitions for everything, we wouldn’t really be able to have any life experience, good or bad, however, we define it. So, we become who we are, and, how we perceive ourselves and everything else, every aspect of our life, because of the definitions we have, the beliefs we hold to be true about everything we experience. And, so:

We become what we believe.

We become our assumptions. As we begin to grow, thus transform, and when life feels peaceful, plenty, joyous, prosperous and it feels as if harmoniously unfolding in front of us, obviously we are holding very resourceful beliefs to be true, for us, in our life. Who cares, then, whether our beliefs are conscious or not, true or not? When life works as we want it to work; it works! Period.

Whenever life feels otherwise, as if not working, we need then to examine what we truly, and unconsciously believe about it.

We need then to redefine everything and allow life to work! Life works, period. Whether you are aware of it, or not:

Beliefs come first!

Feelings are secondary. You cannot have a feeling without believing something, first. So, whenever we experience confusion, struggle, failure, internal conflicts and conflicts with others, too, and any kind of emotional upheaval, let’s ask ourselves this:

“What do I really have to believe about myself in this circumstance, to feel the way I feel about it, and thus get this specific result I am getting.”

Do it now!

Is this making sense to you?

In the coming episode, we are discussing: What are mental-emotional attachments?


You can find all the “Think Zing!” episodes hosted at The Zingnificent Show.

Sandi Dragoi

Informal Educator, Author of "Think Zing! How to be YOU!", "Transformation Inside-Out" online course, and other self-awareness courses and books. The Host of The Zingnificent Show, Speaker & Personal Instructor. Above everything, Dad, in Love! ❤️

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