Deliberately change is an idea I’d like to talk about in this episode of the “Think Zing!” series.  “How can I change?”, was the question that triggered me into becoming an instant preacher; a life coach more likely.


“Change your thoughts and you change your world.”

– Norman Vincent Peale

I used to start my answer to this question with the statement I saw in the question:

I can change! (deliberately change)

As you look and are listening to what the question is asking, you will find the following premise: “I can change!”. It’s in the question. So, I gave my best answer immediately, until I have realized what people were really asking me.

Now, I make sure about the real meaning of the question for anybody who is asking it.

Because “How can I change?” doesn’t necessarily mean deliberately change. Often times it means “How can I get different results in life, but still doing everything I’m doing, in the way I am doing it?” It took me quite some time to figure this out.

I did all my best to answer and to suggest possible steps to make to people who were not really expecting the answers or the possible solutions I could suggest to them, based on my experience and knowledge.

How can I do what I’ve always done without getting what I’ve always gotten?

This is the meaning most people are really attaching to the question “How can I change?” even if they don’t ask it in this way. For them, I’ll say it right from the start:

“You can’t!”

Simple. On this planet, when you plant roses you get roses. You don’t get cauliflower out of roses. This is how it works. I didn’t invent it. I have discovered this fact through personal practice, and study.

It’s nature and we are nature, too. When somebody really wants to change, they naturally became more responsible with themselves, first. They become more introspective. You have to know yourself first, otherwise, how can you or anybody change.

Change what?

So, the way to do it, is still by examining what do you really believe about yourself and about anything? What do you value? Meaning, where do you give your attention?

How those beliefs and values are serving you now, in your desire to become a new, larger, better version of you! Find the answer to these questions and you will change! I have learned that only new knowledge can change one’s life, and, only when the new knowledge is understood, applied in one’s life… and fully lived!

That is the best suggestion I can leave you with, but, still, the question is:

“What are you really asking?”

Make sense?

In the coming episode, we are discussing Can anybody channel?

Until then, be well.

You can find all the episodes of the “Think Zing!” series hosted at The Zingnificent Show.

Sandi Dragoi

Informal Educator, Author of "Think Zing! How to be YOU!", "Transformation Inside-Out" online course, and other self-awareness courses and books. The Host of The Zingnificent Show, Speaker & Personal Instructor. Above everything, Dad, in Love! ❤️

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