Mental-emotional attachments are stuff we believe we need to have ordered in a specific way. So, in various situations, we feel safe about ourselves, no matter what the situations are. The mental-emotional attachments are:

  • Unconscious attitudes.
  • Sets of preconceived behaviors we have and automatically display regarding any given situation.

We use these attitudes, to avoid a direct, simple and clear approach to various situations in life. It is a very deep unconscious state of confusing something to be something else. We carry this confusion with us, like mental and emotional attachments, because we believe that is how we are ultimately safe. It is, mostly, an automatic emotional and mental point of view.


“Attachment leads to jealousy. The shadow of greed that is. Train yourself to let go of everything you fear to lose.”

– Yoda

Mental-emotional attachments are unconscious beliefs.

We cluster them in complex patterns.  These patterns form in us social and behavioral attitudes. Their physical expression can be quite complex. In relationships, for example, we may have attitudes such as being jealous, or possessive. Even violent and abusive or abused in various forms and shapes.

Regarding our own perception about ourselves we may believe we need to always have to do stuff, constant work we don’t really enjoy, mental restlessness, constant busyness, or constant distress and imagined sicknesses, so we get a sense of self-worth. Many people display this one. It comes from situations in which parents and teachers, mostly, told us:

“You are worthless!”

“You are nothing!”

“You’ll do nothing!”

… and so on.

It happened to me, too!

Then, we start our quest – obsession, most-likely –  to prove ourselves to them. Thus, we become unconsciously and mentally attached to our need for their approval, which we’ll never get. In reality, we don’t need it, but, since these attachments are unconscious, most of the time we don’t realize we are displaying them. I’ve spent most of my life, so far, doing this:

“Please like me, approve me, please tell me I’m worthy and allow me to be, or do, or have, etc.”

Now, I just love myself and I’m happy and grateful for who I am, what I have, and what I do.


Another big one is our attachment to belong with institutionalized religions, in any form, so we, again, get the feeling of being worthy, of belonging, of grouping, of righteousness. Thus, we avoid self-discovery and the direct experience of divinity, of cosmos, of all that is, no matter how we call it.

Ultimately, we have to let go of all this stuff that we put in our own way to avoid aspects of ourselves, we don’t really want or are ready to see, allow and accept.

No matter how strong these attachments are, finally, all of us begin to see holes in them. We, then realize that we are more, we are complex beings, so much more similar than different from one another.

Then we start to think.

So we start to awake to our own truth, thus, naturally releasing, letting go of what we call our mental and emotional attachments.

Make sense?

If you liked our little article here you will love all the other episodes we are hosting for you at The Zingnificent Show.

In the coming episode, we’ll discuss Prayer! What is it?

Until then, be well.

Sandi Dragoi

Informal Educator, Author of "Think Zing! How to be YOU!", "Transformation Inside-Out" online course, and other self-awareness courses and books. The Host of The Zingnificent Show, Speaker & Personal Instructor. Above everything, Dad, in Love! ❤️

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