Personal transformation through communication! Today, I want to share with you the power of the word: NO! I believe we don’t use it enough.

Most people believe that NO is a negative word, especially the people who are following self-help disciplines, like me. In self-help, we teach ourselves to be positive, to think positive and live like it. I couldn’t agree more.

I believe in living a life of passion, excitement, joy, abundance, sharing and the truth. Also, I believe in personal transformation through communication. Clear, sincere communication.

Without sincerity, there is no communication.

So, I have learned that taking the negative out of life is like chopping it. It is not natural. Too much positivity invites delusion into our lives; it invites the trance, dressed up in polarized convictions. The artificial and the abnormal come into our lives, disguised in normality. NO is very much needed!

It is part of what is just as everything is. Say it! NO! It truly is liberating!

We need to say NO more when we find ourselves caught up in too many toxic activities and inertia. NO, is appropriate whenever we are over-complicating our lives with too much talking, explaining and countless ideas we never pursue. We need to say NO to flamboyant-never-acting-on plans, and self-identification with various crappy circumstances. NO, is the word to us when we are tempted to indulge in oblivion.

NO affirms the truth, too.

It is positive, too. There just is a different form to it.

Years ago, when I woke up on somebody’s sofa, ignoring my innermost truth; the first idea that woke me up was “NO more!” Very powerful transformation through communication. Self-communication in this case.

NO, this is NOT how I want to live my life! – I told myself.

Each time I have found myself tripping over my ego, being immersed in activities that made me feel miserable; NO has saved me. I have ended many mediocre careers in my life with: NO. Many seducing pitfalls were avoided with NO. I actually believe I didn’t use NO enough, but, it doesn’t matter now.

NO leads to clarity and simplicity.

It keeps you on course. I love NO; I love YES, too, but there are times in life when NO is the right word to use. My daughters are very much encourage to say NO whenever it feels appropriate to them.

We all teach ourselves to lie, from the times we are very little, thinking that some smart avoidance of a clear negation means affirming some truth. It doesn’t. A lie is a lie no matter how well we disguise it, no matter the efforts and the mind games. NO, saves us from lying.

Yes, but! – Usually means: NO.

I’ll try! – Usually means: NO.

Maybe! – Usually means: NO.

We’ll see! – Usually means: NO.

I don’t know! – It’s kind of NO.

Hesitations are kind of NO, too.

NO, thank you!

That can save you time and may spare you from frustration and conflicts and tensions, and all sorts of emotional pain.

NO more!

And so, the process of liberation starts.

Personal transformation through communication! It’s powerful when one practices it. A long time practiced YES without really meaning it, means NO.

Now, start your new life by deciding what you are NOT going to be and do anymore. Use the power of negation! It is a tremendous power. Be proud of what you are NOT. Embrace NO and let it help you in your self-discovery process.

NO, can be a positive negative. It is what little children say when they start to express their newly formed personalities. I will NOT insist. I’m sure you got it!

You have my love!

Sandi Dragoi

Informal Educator, Author of "Think Zing! How to be YOU!", "Transformation Inside-Out" online course, and other self-awareness courses and books. The Host of The Zingnificent Show, Speaker & Personal Instructor. Above everything, Dad, in Love! ❤️

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